I heard something recently that resonated: All relationships we have either bring us a profit or a loss.
This post discusses how to profit from your relationships.
We’ll start with your romantic relationship because for many of us, it can offer us the greatest profit or loss. We’ll then look at some other important relationships in your life and how you relate to people in general.
A healthy relationship literally changes the way our brains respond to fear and pain.
Tons of research has been done that shows just how important a strong committed romantic relationship is for our health, wealth and happiness.
The Case for Marriage: Why Married People are Happier, Healthier and Better off Financially is a book by Linda Waite that discusses some of this research.
But what if you’re not profiting from your relationship with your significant other?
What if, like too many others, it is draining the life out of you?
What’s a quick jumpstart to profiting from it?
Here are 3 simple steps to get yourself on your way to reaping the rewards of a stronger relationships:
- Acknowledge it – if there’s a problem, admit it. Get honest with yourself and quit turning your back from it, thinking it will go away on its own. It won’t.
- Identify it – what’s the problem? Can you articulate what it is for yourself? Why is your relationship a drain? What needs to change? Ask yourself, what would a profitable relationship look like?
- Discuss it – from a place of love. Go to your partner, and let him or her know things aren’t going as well as you’d like them to be going, and that you care enough about the relationship to do what it takes to fix it.
Clearly, this is just a start.
This start, however, models what you need to be doing at all times in relationships to ensure that they are adding to your life and not taking from your life.
The process of the above 3 steps is about being honest with yourself, your emotions and expressing them.
Far too often you have been told that your emotions and needs are not valid, and nothing is further from the truth.
The stuffing of our emotions and needs is what sends many relationships into a loss-loss equation when simply revealing ourselves to each other will amount in a profitable win-win scenario for both partners.
You say what you need, clearly.
Your partner delivers, ideally.
You get what you need.
Your partner feels good.
And vice versa.
Obviously it’s not always that simple, but this is a pretty reasonable template to follow with all of your relationships to ensure that you are getting your needs met and not just giving your energy away.
Your side of the equation in all relationships is important to look at as well.
Ask yourself, how are YOU contributing to the relationship?
Are YOU a drain?
Do you find it hard maintaining friendships? Are you dumping your crap on other people all the time?
If you’re uncertain?
Take a deep breath and ask.
Be profitable to others in your lives, and create relationships that are profitable to you.
Cheers to thriving in business & love,
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