This is the third of a five-part series on what you know about love that you’ve learned is not okay, and why what you’ve learned is wrong.
Sometimes our partners MAKE us feel a certain way.
Going out on a limb with this one, people!
(Sometimes you gotta push the envelope to actually be heard. Remember I said it was important to be heard?)
OK… so NO ONE can MAKE you feel a certain way, I’ll agree with that, BUT, you’ve gotta be pretty damn enlightened (or in a REAL awful relationship) if you’re married and you find out your partner is cheating and you are not impacted by this.
We have a profound effect on each other.
The line between you and me isn’t as defined as we often think it is.
The line between you and your partner?
Even less defined.
Your partner can pick up your emotional state sometimes before YOU can, in some cases.
THAT’s how connected you are. EVEN when you don’t feel that way.
So… even though I will disagree with someone when they say, “then he made me feel xyz,” I will underscore the point that your brains become intermingled when you enter a committed relationship with someone, and that you DO have a tremendous impact on each other, one that is often underestimated or not even acknowledged in the face of distressed partnerships.
Know you have a huge impact on your other half, even (or especially) when you don’t realize it.
Cheers to thriving in business & love,
Great article and all so true!
Jenev Caddell says
Thank you, J!