Do you have a passionate hobby or something of the sort that your partner just can’t seem to get behind you on? Whether it’s your career, a hobby, or a friend that you just plain adore, your partner might loathe something that is close to your heart. Gentlemen, perhaps football? Why do you think this […]
What does 4th of July have to do with it? Independence and your relationship
Today we’ll be discussing independence and your relationship, and how the 4th of July and what it represents probably has a greater influence on your relationship than you may realize. First off, Happy 4th of July. It’s officially summer and this year it’s an extra long weekend for many of us (a whole week off […]
The Relationship Poison that No One Tells You About
It serves an evolutionary purpose to help us survive by maintaining a certain level of cooperation among humans, but if it goes unchecked, it can be a relationship poison. What am I talking about? Shame. You know the feeling. Let’s do a little exercise in case you don’t. (because there’s nothing quite like getting in […]
What level of lover are you?
In this video, Anthony Robbins discusses with Oprah 4 different levels of ways to love. We can all be lovers at each level at different times, but the question he asks is: Where is your center of gravity? The four levels of love are as follows: 1.) Baby Love A.K.A. “I’ll love you if you […]
Where many couples therapists go wrong
Many couples therapists, in my opinion, have got it wrong. Personal disclosure: I started doing family and couples therapy during my training years in graduate school. I tried my best with some tools in hand and books read, but I really didn’t know what I was doing. Most of us start here and some of […]
It’s not about the dishes…
Do you ever find yourself getting in the same silly fights with your partner over and over again? Whether it’s taking the trash out, doing the laundry in a particular way or washing the dishes, is it always something? Does your blood boil with rage when your partner screws up again? Do you feel […]