I wish it were as simple as a blog post to get off the toxic merry-go-round, but hopefully this entry will help shed some light on this all too common problem that so many people face: jumping from one bad relationship to the next. Here’s the deal: As humans, we’re all creatures of habit. We […]
3 Steps to Convince Your Partner to Join You in Couples Therapy
People – mostly women – get in touch with me all the time because they desperately want to start couples therapy or coaching but their partners just won’t go. Today I’ll be discussing 3 steps to get your partner sold on couples therapy or coaching. Step 1: Be Careful with the When and How If you’re […]
How Buddhism Can Save Your Relationship – 4 Mantras to Live By
I will admit, there is much about Buddhism I don’t know of or understand. I do know, however, that if you were to truly embrace certain aspects of Buddhism, your relationship will thank you for it. I had another topic scheduled for this week on the blog, but I came across this 3-minute video from […]
The Myth of Codependency
At least once a week in my psychotherapy practice someone claims to either have “codependency problems” or have a partner who is codependent. Today I am writing to debunk the myth of codependency. The great psychologist Sue Johnson says “there is no such thing as codependency, there is only effective and ineffective dependency.” This statement […]
What NOT to do when you’re having relationship problems
I could go on and on about what you should or shouldn’t do with your partner when you are having relationship problems. Today I’ll be discussing one critical thing not to do that doesn’t involve your partner when you’re having relationship problems. Spoiler alert: It’s not cheating or going on a bender, though I would […]
3 Ways to Get Your Partner to Open Up
Do you ever feel like when you want to talk about something important, your partner shuts down? Does it feel like pulling teeth sometimes to get a word from him? Do you sometimes wonder if anyone’s even in there? In today’s post, we’ll discuss 3 key things you can do to get him to open […]