I will admit, there is much about Buddhism I don’t know of or understand. I do know, however, that if you were to truly embrace certain aspects of Buddhism, your relationship will thank you for it. I had another topic scheduled for this week on the blog, but I came across this 3-minute video from […]
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The Myth of Codependency
At least once a week in my psychotherapy practice someone claims to either have “codependency problems” or have a partner who is codependent. Today I am writing to debunk the myth of codependency. The great psychologist Sue Johnson says “there is no such thing as codependency, there is only effective and ineffective dependency.” This statement […]
What NOT to do when you’re having relationship problems
I could go on and on about what you should or shouldn’t do with your partner when you are having relationship problems. Today I’ll be discussing one critical thing not to do that doesn’t involve your partner when you’re having relationship problems. Spoiler alert: It’s not cheating or going on a bender, though I would […]
3 Ways to Get Your Partner to Open Up
Do you ever feel like when you want to talk about something important, your partner shuts down? Does it feel like pulling teeth sometimes to get a word from him? Do you sometimes wonder if anyone’s even in there? In today’s post, we’ll discuss 3 key things you can do to get him to open […]
Boston Marathon: Moving Through Crisis to Opportunity
Our hearts go out to those directly hit by the tragedy on Marathon Monday in Boston. Traumatic events like this remind us of how fragile we are. In the face of tragedies like that on Monday, our only shelter can sometimes be in the arms of each other. Let’s face it Life is traumatic. […]
The E-Word and Your Relationship
What’s the E-Word? Email? Ecstasy? Engagement? Today I won’t be writing about any of those, but about the other E-Word: Empathy. This blog post was inspired by a video posted on an email listserv that I belong to for Emotionally Focused Therapists, and I thought I would share it with you and discuss the importance […]