Today we’ll be discussing independence and your relationship, and how the 4th of July and what it represents probably has a greater influence on your relationship than you may realize. First off, Happy 4th of July. It’s officially summer and this year it’s an extra long weekend for many of us (a whole week off […]
Connection
The Relationship Poison that No One Tells You About
It serves an evolutionary purpose to help us survive by maintaining a certain level of cooperation among humans, but if it goes unchecked, it can be a relationship poison. What am I talking about? Shame. You know the feeling. Let’s do a little exercise in case you don’t. (because there’s nothing quite like getting in […]
What level of lover are you?
In this video, Anthony Robbins discusses with Oprah 4 different levels of ways to love. We can all be lovers at each level at different times, but the question he asks is: Where is your center of gravity? The four levels of love are as follows: 1.) Baby Love A.K.A. “I’ll love you if you […]
Where many couples therapists go wrong
Many couples therapists, in my opinion, have got it wrong. Personal disclosure: I started doing family and couples therapy during my training years in graduate school. I tried my best with some tools in hand and books read, but I really didn’t know what I was doing. Most of us start here and some of […]
Boston Marathon: Moving Through Crisis to Opportunity
Our hearts go out to those directly hit by the tragedy on Marathon Monday in Boston. Traumatic events like this remind us of how fragile we are. In the face of tragedies like that on Monday, our only shelter can sometimes be in the arms of each other. Let’s face it Life is traumatic. […]
Life’s especially chaotic? 5 Easy Rituals to Keep Your Connection With Your Partner
So many busy couples wind up in distress and disconnected from each other because everything else is a priority but their relationship. As an NYC psychologist, I often wind up seeing couples who have lost each other in the chaos of the rest of life. Work, kids, school, even friends – people are weighed down […]