When you’re in severe relationship distress, it might feel like your world is ending. It can feel like you’re going insane in your relationship. Like Shirley (her name is made up + details are a combination of several clients to protect privacy). She was ready to leave her marriage when she called me last year. […]
Fear
Keeping Secrets In Your Relationship
Caution: Loaded topic. Are you keeping secrets in your relationship? Before going further about this, let me tell you that most secrets in an intimate relationship if you are long-term committed partners are toxic. Poisonous. Secrets are things you are either keeping from your partner on purpose or explicitly lying to them about. Before going […]
How Can I Tell If I’m Outgrowing My Relationship? Here’s What To Do…
I frequently field questions from confused people who fearfully wonder, “Am I outgrowing my relationship?” When you’re a person who is interested in personal growth and development and your partner’s not, you may be scared that you are outgrowing your relationship. Alternatively, perhaps you’ve recently become someone interested in personal growth and development as a […]
What NOT To Do With Your Trouble In Your Relationship
Got a personal issue or trouble in your relationship? An easy way to ruin your relationship is to keep all of your trouble to yourself. Let’s talk about 2 kinds of trouble and tackle each separately: 1.) Your personal troubles – unrelated to the relationship If you are reluctant to ever “burden” others with your trouble […]
How to deal with negative people in your life
The question comes up a lot: How do I deal with negative people in my life? The common advice is to just cut them out. Get rid of them. Step away from toxic people. I’m sure you’ve heard that you’re the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with, so why hang […]
Your Inner Critic: A Subtle Intimacy Killer
Your inner critic could be ruining your relationship and you may not even be aware of it. Got intimacy issues? Connection and communication problems? Can’t seem to understand each other? Find yourself walking on eggshells, uncertain how to talk about things together that you feel couples should be able to handle? Is there a growing distance […]