I’m often asked about recommended books, so I’m going to share a very short list of my favorites when it comes to relationships. I actually have a much longer list of about 30 books that are not restricted to relationships alone, and maybe one day I’ll briefly review them all, but for now, here are […]
Relationships in Danger/What Not To Do
Keeping Secrets In Your Relationship
Caution: Loaded topic. Are you keeping secrets in your relationship? Before going further about this, let me tell you that most secrets in an intimate relationship if you are long-term committed partners are toxic. Poisonous. Secrets are things you are either keeping from your partner on purpose or explicitly lying to them about. Before going […]
Just Apologize: 2 Of The Most Powerful Words You Can Say
Just apologize. Own what you did and say “I’m sorry.” Of course, for an apology to be effective, you have to mean it, and your actions have to demonstrate that as well, but these two words are extremely important. It can be hard to own when you mess up if your relationship is already struggling. […]
What NOT To Do With Your Trouble In Your Relationship
Got a personal issue or trouble in your relationship? An easy way to ruin your relationship is to keep all of your trouble to yourself. Let’s talk about 2 kinds of trouble and tackle each separately: 1.) Your personal troubles – unrelated to the relationship If you are reluctant to ever “burden” others with your trouble […]
How to deal with negative people in your life
The question comes up a lot: How do I deal with negative people in my life? The common advice is to just cut them out. Get rid of them. Step away from toxic people. I’m sure you’ve heard that you’re the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with, so why hang […]
The Gratitude Trap
The gratitude trap is extremely dangerous. It can prevent you from rising to a new levels of joy, success and fulfillment. It can keep you stuck in adequacy or mediocrity. In some situations, it can also be lethal. What is the gratitude trap? Have you ever stopped yourself from wanting something and thought, “I should […]