How can I respond, not react? You had a disagreement and just want to resolve it, but your partner is so checked out, again. You approach him (or her) nicely. No response. You feel it starting: your blood starts heating up, not quite boiling, but getting there. You restrain yourself, take a deep breath, you […]
Responsibility
There Is Nothing You Aren’t Worthy Of
Self-worth issues are so common, and among the biggest blocks to creating your best relationships. They can be incredibly obvious, or they can be subtle. via GIPHY In either case, clearing any doubts about your self worth is absolutely key to allow the kind of love into your life that you require for it to […]
How To Talk Your Partner Into Self-Improvement To Better Your Relationship
You’ve had revelations about yourself and your life in the recent past whether it’s months or years and have transformed. You so desperately want to share this journey with your partner. They are simply not on the same train as you, and while you don’t want to say it’s heartbreaking because you still have hope, […]
Feeling Insane In Your Relationship
When you’re in severe relationship distress, it might feel like your world is ending. It can feel like you’re going insane in your relationship. Like Shirley (her name is made up + details are a combination of several clients to protect privacy). She was ready to leave her marriage when she called me last year. […]
Keeping Secrets In Your Relationship
Caution: Loaded topic. Are you keeping secrets in your relationship? Before going further about this, let me tell you that most secrets in an intimate relationship if you are long-term committed partners are toxic. Poisonous. Secrets are things you are either keeping from your partner on purpose or explicitly lying to them about. Before going […]
Just Apologize: 2 Of The Most Powerful Words You Can Say
Just apologize. Own what you did and say “I’m sorry.” Of course, for an apology to be effective, you have to mean it, and your actions have to demonstrate that as well, but these two words are extremely important. It can be hard to own when you mess up if your relationship is already struggling. […]