“Much of what we experience in a relationship is happening only in our imagination,” — David Hawkins, from the book Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender Stay stuck inside your anxious imagination and you start living out the reality of your nightmarish fears if you have any. Example: You think your husband’s cheating on you […]
Therapy
The Counterintuitive Key To Freedom
John Bowlby was a pioneering British psychologist whose work became well known over 50 years ago. BEFORE I LOSE YOU, stick with me. This has to do with your freedom. Bowlby became known for his work in “attachment,” which is basically the emotional connection between a child and parent. He found that when a child […]
True Desires Of A “Relationship Coach”
I relayed last week on video that I am not a big Valentine’s Day person. I’m not romantic, have mixed feelings about commercialism and honestly am not even one for tradition. So, you saw no 10-Day Romance challenge or anything like that from me last week. Of course I love LOVE and think it’s the […]
Comfortably numb? Do this.
Relationships. Life. Love. Work. Play. What happens when you don’t feel anything? If you walk around comfortably numb, chances are, you might be protecting yourself from something. From feeling. If your history with others has been less than ideal, maybe you have a history of abuse or trauma of some kind, numbness can feel safer […]
It’s HOW not WHAT; the PROCESS not CONTENT
Every Wednesday I run a group laser coaching call known as Dr J On Call where anyone can call in and ask me any question about anything related to love, emotions, business or anything really (obviously I am better equipped to answer some questions than others). On several occasions, people have called in and asked me what words […]
Why Not To Let Things Fester (and HOW not to)
Within yourself and within your relationship, just don’t do it: Don’t let things fester. Something doesn’t feel right within you? You have a choice – you can try to ignore it, or you can try to move through it. Guess what my vote is for? If you are experiencing an uncomfortable, painful or otherwise undesirable […]