Last week I discussed the importance of being vulnerable in order to build strong relationships.
In this video, I offer 2 exercises to try with your partner to get closer by being a bit more vulnerable with each other.
Embracing our wholeness key to being the best versions of ourselves.
That includes being aware of and open to all of our qualities, even those that we’d rather not acknowledge.
The traumas of life, lack of safety from others, and a happy-seeking culture often lead us to suppressing and trying to cut off integral aspects to who we are. Many of us lead a fragmented existence as a result.
Being only a small part of you leaves your partner longing for more.
Disowning parts of who you are and aspects of your emotional experiences – whether you consider them good or bad – creates distance not only between you and your partner, but between you and your fullest experience as a human.
The late, great Swiss psychiatrist and psychotherapist, Carl Jung, referred to these all too frequently disowned parts of ourselves as The Shadow.
If you can get to know your Shadow a little bit, and share that part of yourself with your partner, you will be more fully yourself and closer as a result.
Get closer by being all of you.
The exercises I offer in the video will help you tap into these parts of yourself and share them with your partner.
It’s not easy looking at the unacknowledged parts of ourselves. If these exercises feel too scary, you may want to consider enlisting the help of a therapist or coach to be with you as you do them.
I’d love to hear your thoughts about all of this in the comments below.
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Thanks as always for reading and watching.
Cheers to your best relationship,