Welcome to another RElationTip Tuesday!
Today is about one of the worst places to be, and what you can do about it. Press play to find out!
How do you get out of limbo?
Let me know in the comments below.
Cheers to thriving in business and love,
My Best Relationship - Dr. Jenev Caddell
Deepen your connections to strengthen your work in the world.
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Thank you http://inspiringquotes.com for the email inspiration yesterday…!
This quote reminded me of what I see with so many couples who are simply a few misperceptions and misunderstandings away from each other…
If you’re both motivated to improve your relationship and you just can’t seem to reach each other, you’re both struggling, and you are trapped in the prison of your nightmarish thoughts and feelings. It’s not a good place to be.
It can be terrifying to get out of your cage and step out onto the edge of the cliff to let your partner in because your nightmarish thoughts and fears FEEL like the truth and tell you IT IS DANGEROUS to risk letting your partner in.
When the truth is revealed, when you are brave enough to speak yours and allow theirs, more often than not it is a relief more than anything (if you’re both motivated to reach each other).
If you’ve been missing each other for awhile, they may be skeptical to believe you when you do open up. Keep sharing your truth: that your relationship matters; that your partner matters. It’s how we are all wired, to matter to each other!
I bet you’d welcome their truth, too, so be brave enough to allow it when it’s shared, even if you find yourself skeptical too.
The view is much better when you take the risk!
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1st post on the gram in years right here…and if I told you how long it took me to figure out how to do this again you’d laugh at me!! And quite honestly I do feel a little pathetic and inept with the socials 🤪
Have you been putting off taking care of something too, wishing you started yesterday? The day is young…!
If it’s your relationship- if things aren’t great, if you feel invisible, if you are disconnected, if you feel like strangers or lonely in your marriage, there is never a better time to do something about it than now. For so many reasons.
Here are a few ideas about where to begin:
1.) Educate yourself 📚 - thanks to decades of research and brain imagery technology, we now know what makes a solid relationship work, Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson is a great book to start with.
2.) Get professional assistance 🛋- iceeft.com has a listing of couple’s therapists trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy which works.
3.) Commit to doing something about your relationship today 🙌 Talk to your partner, make it a priority, schedule some time together and agree to be a team to get to a better place.
Easier said on an IG post than done, but set the intention first and start with baby steps 👣
I will be offering a free live private training soon which may also help- DM me with your email address if you’d like to apply to join us, and I’ll get you on the list for more info when I have it!
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Just started reading The Bond by Lynne McTaggart- a book that so eloquently stated what I’ve been trying to for years...
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We extend waaaaay beyond the fictitious boundaries of our skin.
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We are in it together.
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We are wired for connection.
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We are one!
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I’m only a few pages in but got inspired to jump on IG to share...which I haven’t felt in awhile...!
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Go read it! Thank you @lynne.mctaggart">
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Thrilled to join Helen Segal as a presenter in this online retreat - loads of amazing resources and workshops coming up soon...!
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Join us here - totally free:
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Bit.ly/emp-ch.
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It’s your time to feel powerful, joyful and move forward. Join the community!
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#Lifegoals. Who’s with me? All we have is each other.">
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Very good reminder of the day...
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Yet so many of us (self-included - especially with my kid shopping today) get trapped in a hall of negative circus like mirrors with each other — focusing on, bringing out and sometimes CREATING the worst. (You should have seen her tearing through the store). .
It can take more of a conscious effort, going against the grain, a risk and even vulnerability to do what the quote says but we need to.
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Quantum physics 101—observation is creation. Let’s practice intentional evolution. How cool that we can!!!">
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I may not leap out of bed every morning with boundless energy (does any adult? And no thanks on your life changing biohacking product...) but once I’m vertical, heading to do what I love with people I adore.....it doesn’t take me too long to plug in and appreciate...
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Especially with earlier sunrises on this beautiful first Friday of 2019.
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Love who you’re with, what you do, where you live....❤️❤️❤️">
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Needed to hear this one….!
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Especially when it feels like I’m dropping balls with certain goals.
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Finding myself disappointed with myself…..
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Yet realizing…all the same…
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Thanks to a quote like this….
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My eyes are on the prize.
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Main goal: Love.
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The rest of the goals?
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Also important.
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But my priorities are in order…">
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He also says:
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“Without a commitment to learning from each relationship moment, years of meditation or therapy make no real difference in well being.”
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Deep honesty and your essence expressed are required for you to truly thrive, grow and expand in this lifetime, and this can be the most challenging + rewarding in your genuine relationships.
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If you’re struggling, you are likely onto something really amazing, if you simply allow your greatness to emerge.
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Your essence = pure value, pure greatness.
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That’s it.
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No striving. No proving. Pure being. ❤️">
- That’s my average lifetime rate of actually waking up before or with the sun (or let’s face it just after the sun in the summer) to go for a run when I say to myself that I will.
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That’s an F.
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There has never been a time I’ve done it and regretted it, so it’s always something I revisit sometimes and do.
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Knowing this, and with the intention of starting my weekends the way I want to, this spring I made a commitment to getting up at 5 every Saturday to run 10 miles minimum (usually not more than that).
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Once a week, this is 1.5 hours or so just for me, alone, during one of the most beautiful parts of the day, in one of the most beautiful parts of the world.
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I’ve gotten this done 11 out of 15 times since I’ve started. That’s 73% - not bad!! Feels so good every time (maybe not the whole time, but when I’m done...!).
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Moral of the story:
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1. Never give up on yourself, keep tweaking and fine tuning your habits and routines until they work for you, we’re all a work in progress...!
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2. If you needed a sign to start getting up and increasing your mileage (or whatever you do that feeds your soul)...this is it!!">
- That’s my average lifetime rate of actually waking up before or with the sun (or let’s face it just after the sun in the summer) to go for a run when I say to myself that I will.
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That’s an F.
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There has never been a time I’ve done it and regretted it, so it’s always something I revisit sometimes and do.
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Knowing this, and with the intention of starting my weekends the way I want to, this spring I made a commitment to getting up at 5 every Saturday to run 10 miles minimum (usually not more than that).
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Once a week, this is 1.5 hours or so just for me, alone, during one of the most beautiful parts of the day, in one of the most beautiful parts of the world.
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I’ve gotten this done 11 out of 15 times since I’ve started. That’s 73% - not bad!! Feels so good every time (maybe not the whole time, but when I’m done...!).
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Moral of the story:
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1. Never give up on yourself, keep tweaking and fine tuning your habits and routines until they work for you, we’re all a work in progress...!
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2. If you needed a sign to start getting up and increasing your mileage (or whatever you do that feeds your soul)...this is it!!"> - .
We are in crisis.
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I stay away from politics but this isn’t political.
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Donate if you can.
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Call your reps: (202) 224-3121.
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We can’t relent.
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We are bleeding out; this must stop.">
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Love springs up in tender concern, it blossoms into caring action. It makes beauty out of all we touch.
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In any moment we can step beyond our small self and embrace each other as beloved parts of a whole.” - Jack Kornfield.
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It requires a risk like none other, but it’s worth it.
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It can be a challenge to get beyond our small selves, I haven’t been able to always do it, but am working on it.
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The rewards are instantaneous…!
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Give me a 🙌 if you’re with me.">
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10 years since THE BOOK YOU NEED TO READ to create a rich and deepened relationship was written by the amazing Dr. Sue Johnson: “Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.”
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Love - deepened and strengthened relationships - is what all of us need, more than anything else, to perform and live at our best.
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It may not FEEL like your primary driver if you are a high performer or achiever, but when your relationships aren’t working, you’ve got massive energy and power leaks that are lethal to your work, your legacy, and your health.
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It’s not your fault, none of us got courses on this in school, and as someone driven to excel, relationships might not feel like your front and center priority. .
Even so,I urge you, take care of them, discover what makes love work.
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Sue makes this game changing information so accessible to everyone, just check out the book if you haven’t already, and let me know if it turns your world upside down (in a good way) too.">
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10 years since THE BOOK YOU NEED TO READ to create a rich and deepened relationship was written by the amazing Dr. Sue Johnson: “Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.”
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Love - deepened and strengthened relationships - is what all of us need, more than anything else, to perform and live at our best.
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It may not FEEL like your primary driver if you are a high performer or achiever, but when your relationships aren’t working, you’ve got massive energy and power leaks that are lethal to your work, your legacy, and your health.
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It’s not your fault, none of us got courses on this in school, and as someone driven to excel, relationships might not feel like your front and center priority. .
Even so,I urge you, take care of them, discover what makes love work.
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Sue makes this game changing information so accessible to everyone, just check out the book if you haven’t already, and let me know if it turns your world upside down (in a good way) too."> - .
Over 2 months ago, my daughter went to a Princess Tea party, it was the best day of her life. .
When I picked her up from school yesterday, her teacher informed me that she has convinced the class to have a Princess Tea party.
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Me: “What?! How?”
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Teacher: “She has been talking about this nonstop, every day, for 2 weeks, as if it is happening, no matter what. So, I finally decided, it has to happen.”
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I am impressed, and am following her lead. .
It can be frustrating as a parent of a toddler to have her so skilled at getting what she wants, but I will do my best to nurture that — clearly her teacher is, too!
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Get clarity on your vision and see it so clearly that it becomes reality, wear down everything around you with that certainty, and everything will assist in manifesting it.
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I just hope Elsa doesn’t move in with us…(or send us a restraining order).">
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Ran 10 miles before 7am, that feels good. Not setting any records, but it’s a great way to kick off the weekend (typing so slowly, hands sorta numb).
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Feeling especially lucky to have high performing clients who are smarter, fitter, and more driven than I am...they’re always inspiring, and sometimes it rubs off...!">
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Ran 10 miles before 7am, that feels good. Not setting any records, but it’s a great way to kick off the weekend (typing so slowly, hands sorta numb).
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Feeling especially lucky to have high performing clients who are smarter, fitter, and more driven than I am...they’re always inspiring, and sometimes it rubs off...!"> - .
Today I had to share this one as a reminder for you too - you are INFIN8! 👏👏👏">
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Today I had to share this one as a reminder for you too - you are INFIN8! 👏👏👏"> - .
Today I had to share this one as a reminder for you too - you are INFIN8! 👏👏👏"> 
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The best you can do is allow and accept them, they’ll naturally move, and may shed some light on things in the process.
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Your feelings are your clues about what really matters to you, pay attention to them, allow, quit the judgment, and they’ll serve you well, strengthening your connection with yourself, others and the universe itself so you can be even more incredible.">
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I was going to limit myself by saying I’m not especially brilliant at any of the above, but then realized I did make a killer tomato soup a few weeks ago...!!">
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I was going to limit myself by saying I’m not especially brilliant at any of the above, but then realized I did make a killer tomato soup a few weeks ago...!!"> - .
It’s amazing how much of a difference walls can make in changing our reality.
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Let’s keep them on buildings and take them down between each other...">
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It’s amazing how much of a difference walls can make in changing our reality.
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Any time works for forgiveness, but the start of a new year is an especially good time.
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The results may include restored connection, a sense of relief, greater opportunities, and perhaps most fun of all, freedom.
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“…But I am having such a hard time forgiving that person,” you say?
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If that’s the case, turn within, and start giving yourself the opportunity to forgive you.">
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Any time works for forgiveness, but the start of a new year is an especially good time.
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The results may include restored connection, a sense of relief, greater opportunities, and perhaps most fun of all, freedom.
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“…But I am having such a hard time forgiving that person,” you say?
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If that’s the case, turn within, and start giving yourself the opportunity to forgive you."> - .
So decide this year to enjoy it, as you do what you want with it.
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A few short years ago I never would have imagined driving down an old country road, where turkeys stop traffic, looking for a home to buy with 2 kids in the back and a man I loved by my side.
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Before kids, we were both in the rat race, up and out spending hours a week on the subway, commuting to jobs…
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I remember wondering, “what would it be like to live in nature, close to the mountains, close to the ocean, and not too far from a city…”
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I doubted we could pull it off.
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All I knew (before becoming my own boss) was rushing to jobs I felt mediocre about and giving what felt like most if not all of myself to them.
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Yet we were desperately tired of circling the streets for parking (and refused to spend hundreds a month for a spot).
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We were tired of the crowds. The nightmare of grocery shopping.
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Our son didn’t even enjoy Central Park the time we took him there (I don’t know what was wrong with him, it is still one of my favorite places on earth).
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And here we are, a few years later, starting 2018 with some dreams realized that felt once unbelievable to me, and more to run after.
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This year and forever more I keep my commitment to enjoying the unfolding, to not resisting, to letting go, to allowing all the good that is here in front of me and so much more of it that’s on its way.
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I hope you do the same!
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And while I cherish my alone time, this process is best enjoyed with good company.
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Here’s to the unfolding of 2018 as you like it, enjoying the ride, and doing so in good company.
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Thanks for being here with me on IG 🥂">
- RelationTip: Show up when you say you will! You’re showing self-respect and respect to others.
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“NEVR-L8” may not be the best to strive for at all costs, but I appreciate the effort big time, and H8 being L8!">
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I’m choosing to stay as open as I am able to.
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🙌 if you’re with me! ❤️">
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