Today I want to challenge you to show up as a better partner.
You do not need to go buy something ridiculously expensive or plan some kind of outrageous vacation.
I want you to do something small.
Something that might seem insignificant.
Yet something that takes mental energy and time.
It could be simply leaving your partner a note, or going the extra mile to do something nice for them that normally you wouldn’t do.
We forget to do these things over time and it’s not a deal breaker in a relationship if you know you both care about each other deeply, but it’s necessary in any relationship for it to be at its best.
If your relationship isn’t so great, however, it’s even more important.
It’s also more difficult.
If you were 100 pounds overweight and hadn’t worked out in awhile, it would be pretty hard to go to the gym or go for a jog. Your body would not want to cooperate.
It’s the same thing in taking care of your relationship, or anything for that matter. You have to force these things sometimes in order to gain the momentum you need to keep them naturally moving along at their own speed.
I get it – this can be difficult in love if you’re really struggling.
If things aren’t going well in your relationship, chances are, you’re not the only one who notices that. Even if you’re partner isn’t showing it, he or she is likely hurt or scared or wanting more from the relationship as well.
Dig down deep and find some compassion. Find something you like about them. And honor that part of them. Just try it. Give it some time. See how it goes.
That could be a game changer for you both right there.
If you can’t think of anything you like about your partner, why are you with them in the first place?
Or can you think of nice things but you don’t want to admit it because it’s easier to just buy into the story that your partner overall sucks?
As they say, do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?
It’s really up to you. Take responsibility.
It can also be difficult to exert this extra effort and energy because it just doesn’t feel like a priority.
You’ve got a million things on your list to do, you’ve got 10 other people to answer to, you just want to do something for yourself, and time you have to even breathe might feel limited…
If that’s the case, I want you to know that by doing these small things to take care of your relationship, by exerting this additional effort and energy even if you don’t think you have it to give, you’re creating a foundation that will give you so much more energy in return.
Give when you don’t think you have, and you’ll be surprised at the results.
These tiny acts of generosity and thoughtfulness that may feel like they’re taking energy from you will ultimately make the rest of your life go more smoothly, as they will ultimately strengthen the foundation of your relationship.
Just try it for a week and see what happens, OK?
Please let me know in the comments.
Oh, and check out my video on this very topic as well:
Cheers to thriving in business and love,