Is your relationship suffering from a common polite killer that sneaks in and pulls so many partners apart?
Many of us are taught to grin and bear it, not to ask for too much, and to be grateful for what we have.
I’m all about the importance of gratitude and not dwelling on the negative. You know that.
But when we keep looking away from problems, we only invite new ones in.
The polite killer that I’m referring to is tip-toeing around each other.
You got something on your mind or something that’s not quite right with your partner?
Don’t do them any favors by tip toeing around the issue or holding onto it yourself.
When you do this, you’re actually causing more long-term harm than good.
I’ve heard it said and have repeated before that relationship problems start like tiny rocks in your shoe. Seemingly easier to deal with in the moment than having to stop what you’re doing and empty your shoe. After a run or a walk with a pebble in that shoe, however, you would have wished you dealt with it sooner.
This goes for all relationships – not just romantic ones.
The key message here is to HONOR yourself and your experience.
There’s nothing wrong with it.
You are not too NEEDY or too DIFFICULT, nor do you DESIRE TOO MUCH.
If you have a problem with someone or something someone said who you are in a significant relationship with, tell them.
If you are feeling frustrated with your partner, check in with yourself about what you are really frustrated about and attempt a productive conversation about it without becoming accusative or critical. If for whatever reason that doesn’t feel comfortable to you:
Ask yourself if you are falling into the trap of thinking your partner is a mind reader.
When we start truly honoring ourselves and our experiences — regardless of how “wrong” they have been made to be by family, society or whomever — we can actually connect with each other.
That genuine connection is what a strong relationship is all about.
Now tell me, what can you finally let go of and share with your partner? When you do — let me know what happens in the comments below.
Cheers to thriving in business and love,