Self-worth issues are so common, and among the biggest blocks to creating your best relationships.
They can be incredibly obvious, or they can be subtle.
In either case, clearing any doubts about your self worth is absolutely key to allow the kind of love into your life that you require for it to be its best.
The truth is: You are a miracle!
There is nothing or no one on this planet (or any other) who is too good for you.
Understanding this objective fact and truth is something that is easier to understand intellectually than emotionally if you’ve got any programming, subtle or obvious, that tries to convince you otherwise.
When you can wrap your head around this impossible to deny fact that no one or nothing is too good for you, then it becomes obvious that YOU and your own ideas about yourself are what’s in your way of accepting the truth.
Let me know. Seriously!
And I’ll ask you this:
What makes you so special that you are somehow different than everyone else?
Is there a “value” order of people and you’re on the bottom? Or close to it? In the lower 50th percentile? Lower 25th%? Where do you stand?
It just doesn’t make sense.
Start allowing the love and consideration that you have for others into your own life.
Now, I know that you might have grown up with all kinds of conditioning and programming telling you otherwise.
You grew up bullied, or you are a person of color who lives in a racist country, or there was no room for emotional expression in your family, or you didn’t have great role models…maybe you were downright abused.
There are countless scenarios, conditioning and programming you may have grown up with that may have somehow eroded your sense of self-worth.
To show up your best in the world…
To be the best version of yourself…
To live your best life and be able to give back to the world in a way that only you can…
It is your responsibility to undo this conditioning and programming.
Side note though related:
It is also our responsibility, collectively, to re-write the cultural stories that say ANYTHING about ANY ONE person or group of people (e.g. whites) having supremacy over another.
I’ll leave it to Brene Brown to say more about this one that she shared about our nation’s BIG white supremacy issue, and how we must own and change it):
We must stop perpetuating and subscribing to these lies, however tacitly or overtly that we do.
There is no reason that you should be living a lie.
The fact of the matter is that we will perpetuate and live lies only because it can be more comfortable for us to do so than to challenge them.
This lie will cause you to SETTLE in all areas of your life:
- In less than fulfilling relationships
- In work that does not light you up
- With people who suck you dry
Get uncomfortable and challenge any paradigm that states that any one person is better than another.
When this truth finally reigns and we re-write our cultural story of white supremacy, my closest friends’ kids and my kids’ closest friends won’t have to feel weird, scared, threatened or less than in any way in their country.
The racism and bigotry we see in the United States is appalling and I bet you think so too…because you know the truth that no one is better than anyone else.
But recognize it for yourself too.
Recognize – you are the best. And there is room enough for all of us to be the best, since there are no rankings when it comes to being human.
It may take longer to clear the lies emotionally, but know that it’s possible and life will be a lot better when you do.
Here’s to your best relationships — with others, and with yourself too, and here’s to us all figuring out, together, how we can collectively create them as well, despite our horrific history as a country and our unsettling present,