Napoleon Hill, in his classic book Think and Grow Rich, wrote about R. U. Darby and his uncle losing a fortune in gold as a result of quitting.
They had actually seen the gold and came back to the site with the proper machinery to find it, but upon digging again, it appeared to be gone.
So they gave up.
They sold their drills and headed home.
The guy who bought their drills wound up consulting an engineer who instructed him on how to find the gold.
And he did. Three feet from where they stopped drilling.
The lesson to be learned?
Never accept temporary defeat.
Never accept temporary defeat with anything you do, especially in your own business and in love.
The gold was three feet away! But they quit.
They stopped three feet from gold.
How much longer would it have taken them to find it? It was right there!
You may ask what this has to do with your relationship.
If you’re in any kind of distress: everything.
Because far too often people quit 3 feet from gold in love.
When they don’t actually quit 3 feet from gold in love, sometimes they start thinking about it, which is still a problem.
Indulging the fantasy of quitting will set you back further.
So don’t do it.
If you and your partner are in it to win it and you are both committed to making it work, but you feel hopeless, tired and frustrated, it can be really hard to stay the course. But there is no other way.
It’s important to be really clear on what your desire is with your relationship and leave room for nothing else in your mind but that vision.
If you are like most of the women that I work with, you want improved communication, a close and connected mutually supportive relationship with your partner, yes? You want support in business and you want to feel like you have a partner in your life, someone who has your back and who prioritizes you. Yes?
When you make room for nothing else in your vision but that close and connected relationship that you so desire, deserve and need, you will be that much closer to striking gold.
Maintaining this focus can feel impossible.
Especially if it is buried underneath layers upon layers of heavy, difficult and painful emotions.
Far too often couples get lost in the layers. All they see is each other’s layers.
And your essence and true desire for the same thing gets lost. Doubts fester. Fantasies of quitting set in. You move further from the gold.
What you want is there.
You just need to keep drilling.
Stay the course.
Do not accept temporary defeat.
Cheers to your best relationship,