Yes. You’d be surprised how much the system of two people can change by focusing on only half of the couple. I don’t believe we can change ANYONE (only ourselves), but by becoming more aware of the roles we play and the dynamics we continue to perpetuate and by changing those patterns, we have the potential to change our relationships big time. I’ve worked with many individuals on their marriages and have seen great results.
My Best Relationship - Dr. Jenev Caddell
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Just started reading The Bond by Lynne McTaggart- a book that so eloquently stated what I’ve been trying to for years...
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We extend waaaaay beyond the fictitious boundaries of our skin.
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We are in it together.
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We are wired for connection.
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We are one!
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I’m only a few pages in but got inspired to jump on IG to share...which I haven’t felt in awhile...!
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Go read it! Thank you @lynne.mctaggart">
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Thrilled to join Helen Segal as a presenter in this online retreat - loads of amazing resources and workshops coming up soon...!
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Join us here - totally free:
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Bit.ly/emp-ch.
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It’s your time to feel powerful, joyful and move forward. Join the community!
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#Lifegoals. Who’s with me? All we have is each other.">
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Very good reminder of the day...
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Yet so many of us (self-included - especially with my kid shopping today) get trapped in a hall of negative circus like mirrors with each other — focusing on, bringing out and sometimes CREATING the worst. (You should have seen her tearing through the store). .
It can take more of a conscious effort, going against the grain, a risk and even vulnerability to do what the quote says but we need to.
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Quantum physics 101—observation is creation. Let’s practice intentional evolution. How cool that we can!!!">
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I may not leap out of bed every morning with boundless energy (does any adult? And no thanks on your life changing biohacking product...) but once I’m vertical, heading to do what I love with people I adore.....it doesn’t take me too long to plug in and appreciate...
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Especially with earlier sunrises on this beautiful first Friday of 2019.
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Love who you’re with, what you do, where you live....❤️❤️❤️">
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Needed to hear this one….!
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Especially when it feels like I’m dropping balls with certain goals.
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Finding myself disappointed with myself…..
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Yet realizing…all the same…
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Thanks to a quote like this….
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My eyes are on the prize.
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Main goal: Love.
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The rest of the goals?
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Also important.
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But my priorities are in order…">
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E.g., your local Ford dealership to solve your vibrational problems.">
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He also says:
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“Without a commitment to learning from each relationship moment, years of meditation or therapy make no real difference in well being.”
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Deep honesty and your essence expressed are required for you to truly thrive, grow and expand in this lifetime, and this can be the most challenging + rewarding in your genuine relationships.
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If you’re struggling, you are likely onto something really amazing, if you simply allow your greatness to emerge.
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Your essence = pure value, pure greatness.
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That’s it.
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No striving. No proving. Pure being. ❤️">
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That’s my average lifetime rate of actually waking up before or with the sun (or let’s face it just after the sun in the summer) to go for a run when I say to myself that I will.
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That’s an F.
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There has never been a time I’ve done it and regretted it, so it’s always something I revisit sometimes and do.
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Knowing this, and with the intention of starting my weekends the way I want to, this spring I made a commitment to getting up at 5 every Saturday to run 10 miles minimum (usually not more than that).
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Once a week, this is 1.5 hours or so just for me, alone, during one of the most beautiful parts of the day, in one of the most beautiful parts of the world.
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I’ve gotten this done 11 out of 15 times since I’ve started. That’s 73% - not bad!! Feels so good every time (maybe not the whole time, but when I’m done...!).
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Moral of the story:
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1. Never give up on yourself, keep tweaking and fine tuning your habits and routines until they work for you, we’re all a work in progress...!
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2. If you needed a sign to start getting up and increasing your mileage (or whatever you do that feeds your soul)...this is it!!">
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We are in crisis.
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I stay away from politics but this isn’t political.
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Donate if you can.
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Call your reps: (202) 224-3121.
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We can’t relent.
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We are bleeding out; this must stop.">
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Love springs up in tender concern, it blossoms into caring action. It makes beauty out of all we touch.
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In any moment we can step beyond our small self and embrace each other as beloved parts of a whole.” - Jack Kornfield.
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It requires a risk like none other, but it’s worth it.
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It can be a challenge to get beyond our small selves, I haven’t been able to always do it, but am working on it.
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The rewards are instantaneous…!
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Give me a 🙌 if you’re with me.">
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10 years since THE BOOK YOU NEED TO READ to create a rich and deepened relationship was written by the amazing Dr. Sue Johnson: “Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.”
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Love - deepened and strengthened relationships - is what all of us need, more than anything else, to perform and live at our best.
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It may not FEEL like your primary driver if you are a high performer or achiever, but when your relationships aren’t working, you’ve got massive energy and power leaks that are lethal to your work, your legacy, and your health.
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It’s not your fault, none of us got courses on this in school, and as someone driven to excel, relationships might not feel like your front and center priority. .
Even so,I urge you, take care of them, discover what makes love work.
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Sue makes this game changing information so accessible to everyone, just check out the book if you haven’t already, and let me know if it turns your world upside down (in a good way) too.">
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Over 2 months ago, my daughter went to a Princess Tea party, it was the best day of her life. .
When I picked her up from school yesterday, her teacher informed me that she has convinced the class to have a Princess Tea party.
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Me: “What?! How?”
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Teacher: “She has been talking about this nonstop, every day, for 2 weeks, as if it is happening, no matter what. So, I finally decided, it has to happen.”
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I am impressed, and am following her lead. .
It can be frustrating as a parent of a toddler to have her so skilled at getting what she wants, but I will do my best to nurture that — clearly her teacher is, too!
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Get clarity on your vision and see it so clearly that it becomes reality, wear down everything around you with that certainty, and everything will assist in manifesting it.
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I just hope Elsa doesn’t move in with us…(or send us a restraining order).">
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Ran 10 miles before 7am, that feels good. Not setting any records, but it’s a great way to kick off the weekend (typing so slowly, hands sorta numb).
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Feeling especially lucky to have high performing clients who are smarter, fitter, and more driven than I am...they’re always inspiring, and sometimes it rubs off...!">
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Today I had to share this one as a reminder for you too - you are INFIN8! 👏👏👏">
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The best you can do is allow and accept them, they’ll naturally move, and may shed some light on things in the process.
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Your feelings are your clues about what really matters to you, pay attention to them, allow, quit the judgment, and they’ll serve you well, strengthening your connection with yourself, others and the universe itself so you can be even more incredible.">
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I was going to limit myself by saying I’m not especially brilliant at any of the above, but then realized I did make a killer tomato soup a few weeks ago...!!">
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It’s amazing how much of a difference walls can make in changing our reality.
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Let’s keep them on buildings and take them down between each other...">
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Any time works for forgiveness, but the start of a new year is an especially good time.
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The results may include restored connection, a sense of relief, greater opportunities, and perhaps most fun of all, freedom.
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“…But I am having such a hard time forgiving that person,” you say?
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If that’s the case, turn within, and start giving yourself the opportunity to forgive you.">
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So decide this year to enjoy it, as you do what you want with it.
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A few short years ago I never would have imagined driving down an old country road, where turkeys stop traffic, looking for a home to buy with 2 kids in the back and a man I loved by my side.
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Before kids, we were both in the rat race, up and out spending hours a week on the subway, commuting to jobs…
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I remember wondering, “what would it be like to live in nature, close to the mountains, close to the ocean, and not too far from a city…”
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I doubted we could pull it off.
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All I knew (before becoming my own boss) was rushing to jobs I felt mediocre about and giving what felt like most if not all of myself to them.
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Yet we were desperately tired of circling the streets for parking (and refused to spend hundreds a month for a spot).
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We were tired of the crowds. The nightmare of grocery shopping.
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Our son didn’t even enjoy Central Park the time we took him there (I don’t know what was wrong with him, it is still one of my favorite places on earth).
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And here we are, a few years later, starting 2018 with some dreams realized that felt once unbelievable to me, and more to run after.
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This year and forever more I keep my commitment to enjoying the unfolding, to not resisting, to letting go, to allowing all the good that is here in front of me and so much more of it that’s on its way.
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I hope you do the same!
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And while I cherish my alone time, this process is best enjoyed with good company.
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Here’s to the unfolding of 2018 as you like it, enjoying the ride, and doing so in good company.
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Thanks for being here with me on IG 🥂">
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RelationTip: Show up when you say you will! You’re showing self-respect and respect to others.
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“NEVR-L8” may not be the best to strive for at all costs, but I appreciate the effort big time, and H8 being L8!">
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I’m choosing to stay as open as I am able to.
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🙌 if you’re with me! ❤️">
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I didn’t want to go for a run.
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It was weird, I always love going running, but it was cold, I hadn’t gone in a few days, my sneakers are a bit worn out. I couldn’t motivate.
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But I know better, I know I always feel better after a run, and I know it doesn’t take long to heat up once I get started.
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The second I stepped outside, I was totally fine.
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“Thank God I got myself out here.”
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I could focus on the ice forming on the pond, or the warmth of the sun.
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The ice was beautiful, it’s December in New England - I’d prefer snow by now - but I’ll take few ice crystals.
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We are all in so many great situations - bodies that can run, marriages that work well, homes with heat and hot water, professions we chose - yet so easily can get pulled into paying attention to what’s wrong with even the things we love and chose.
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Pay attention to how you’re looking at things, and challenge yourself at times to change up your lenses.
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You’ll be so glad you did, just like I was so glad I got myself out on the road, and for the most part, appreciated every minute of it.">
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I am super grateful that he was one of my teachers, even though it wasn’t until the last decade or so I realized just how brilliant Mr. Rogers was.">
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Wishing you a beautiful day!">
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Posting anyway despite me feeling “maybe this is redundant” because this feeling and view can never get redundant.
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I’m especially grateful to be alive and well after watching the first 2 episodes of The Handmaiden’s Tale last night 😐">
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- Sue Johnson, from her best seller: Love Sense - The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Love.
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It’s not the mainstream message out there but it’s the truth: If you want to spice up your relationship, create true intimacy first.
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Here are 5 ways to start going from mere roommates to red hot marriage (more details, explanation, example and ways coming on the blog - link in profile):
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1️⃣ Set the intention together.
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2️⃣ Deepen your trust.
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3️⃣ Be more present when you’re present.
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4️⃣ Get curious.
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5️⃣ Know your partner’s love languages.
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Read more here on mybestrelationship.com (link in profile) - but more importantly, take the time to connect.
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The romance and sizzle is the icing on the cake.
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What’s worked for you?
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5 more ways coming next week...">
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Agree?
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In some ways, I think Freud was right - about work and love being the cornerstones of our humanity...but what I love is that they don’t have to exclude each other.
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What about you?">
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Agree?
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In some ways, I think Freud was right - about work and love being the cornerstones of our humanity...but what I love is that they don’t have to exclude each other.
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What about you?"> -
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Got marriage trouble?
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Remember that person you’re complaining about was once your dream come true.">
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When I see a partner of a couple start to behave in the way his spouse so badly desires, it can be initially hard for his spouse to allow/believe/trust/accept it.
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She’s married to the old way.
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“He never does this!”
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She can’t let it in at first. It’s easier to put up a wall and fight the old, than to be vulnerable and trust the new.
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He feels dejected.
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Thankfully they’re committed to getting this right, so they both keep trying. Trusting. Opening up more to each other.
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It’s true for lots of things we want, we won’t allow ourselves to get excited until we see enough of it to believe it’s real.
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All that does is stop the very thing you want from coming in.
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So keep trying, trusting, even if it makes you the fool. The alternative is staying the same.
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Take what you can get. Appreciate the hell out of it. And watch the rest come in - rushing or trickling - either way, it’s what you want, it’s real, believe it, and drink it in!">
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Always something to consider, in any situation that’s important to you, it’s generally worth digging a little deeper...!">
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Keep it sacred.
If you are in a violent or abusive relationship, your safety is paramount and there is nothing sacred about violence, so talk to others.
Otherwise, keep the private stuff to yourselves, or get professional help, lest you want everyone else in your business...!
You plan on having a marriage that lasts, keep that vision in mind at all times, knowing where are the windows and where are the walls.">
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Keep it sacred.
If you are in a violent or abusive relationship, your safety is paramount and there is nothing sacred about violence, so talk to others.
Otherwise, keep the private stuff to yourselves, or get professional help, lest you want everyone else in your business...!
You plan on having a marriage that lasts, keep that vision in mind at all times, knowing where are the windows and where are the walls.">
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