Are you a strong woman?
Independent. Intelligent. Relentless. No nonsense.
I like your style.
Though I’m all about feminism and women’s rights, it does feel very…1970?
Aren’t we beyond that?
Thankfully, I grew up believing in myself, for the most part, and never had any doubt about my ability to be successful on my own.
I honestly didn’t have dreams of white weddings or meeting Prince Charming.
I would take a rewarding, fulfilling line of work any day over a marriage!
I didn’t consciously think they were mutually exclusive, but I did believe I was fine on my own.
Until I learned about what it really means to be a strong woman.
Or a strong anyone for that matter.
Here’s the thing:
We are stronger when we are connected.
Connected to ourselves, of course, all different parts of our selves – even the ones we like to turn away from – and connected to others.
Strong connections with others are the necessary vitamins that we all need on a daily basis, even us introverts.
The old message is that we can do it on our own.
And as a strong woman, you can.
You can do even more and do it better when you have strong connections to others, particularly your partner.
How does a real strong woman roll in love?
When she’s frustrated with her husband, she doesn’t run to her girlfriends and start complaining about him.
She doesn’t roll her eyes about how idiotic men can be.
She doesn’t minimize him and project her insecurities onto him.
Instead, she gets really curious.
She digs deep within herself and touches upon the most fragile parts of herself.
To be that strong woman:
You are aware and connected to all of you – not only the frustration but the raw, vulnerable spots underneath.
You embrace and allow yourself to be as you are: a human, with emotions, who needs to be taken care of physically and emotionally, by YOU and by OTHERS in your life.
You accept your needs, which includes the need for a strong emotional connection.
You share that raw and vulnerable part of yourself with your partner, so instead of running for the hills as he usually does when you yell at him or ice him out, he is drawn closer to you.
Accepting all parts of yourself and SHARING them with the ones who matter most…
That’s what it means to be a strong woman.
Do you agree?
Let me know in the comments.
Cheers to thriving in business & love,