{"id":3596,"date":"2015-07-02T01:00:34","date_gmt":"2015-07-02T01:00:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mybestrelationship.com\/?p=3596"},"modified":"2015-07-02T01:00:34","modified_gmt":"2015-07-02T01:00:34","slug":"your-internal-compass-dont-doubt-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mybestrelationship.com\/your-internal-compass-dont-doubt-it\/","title":{"rendered":"Your internal compass: Don\u2019t doubt it"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Jenev-Round-Quote1\"<\/p>\n

Today I\u2019m going to be discussing your internal compass, or what Danielle LaPorte refers to as \u201cthe GPS of your soul,\u201d namely: your emotions.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cEmotion\u201d has been considered inferior in many ways to the almighty \u201ccognition,\u201d our newly evolved and highly sophisticated neocortex, where we can compute complex math problems and think things through (sometimes).<\/p>\n

The thing about emotions is that they are more sophisticated than we have given them credit for.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In fact, emotion is sort of like our internal compass, a guidance system that we can always count on to help us navigate the intricacies of our lives in a simple way.<\/p>\n

My advice to you is \u2013 actually, I\u2019m begging you<\/strong> \u2013 to please pay attention to your emotions.<\/p>\n

The root of the word means \u201cto move,\u201d and emotions are fluid in nature.<\/p>\n

When we don\u2019t acknowledge them or pay attention to them, they can become stuck.<\/p>\n

Unacknowledged anger turns inward and depression ensues, for example.<\/p>\n

Or, because we don\u2019t listen, we become stuck.<\/p>\n

\"Jenev-Quote-Focus\"<\/p>\n

I just got off the phone with someone who has been questioning herself and listens to her husband\u2019s voice over her own. He tells her she\u2019s uptight so she questions herself and asks, \u201cam I too uptight?\u201d and as a result, becomes even more restricted and uptight in the process.<\/p>\n

While I\u2019m all about thinking of two people in a relationship as a system, and I believe we are all connected, it\u2019s important that you never let your partner drown out the signals that you need to hear from yourself.<\/p>\n

What you should do instead is STOP.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Slow down.<\/p>\n

Pay attention.<\/p>\n

Ask yourself: How do I really feel?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your emotions are your friends. They are incredibly sophisticated and we have them to thank for helping us survive this far.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re struggling to tap into your feelings, try to just feel yourself in your body. Ask yourself, how does your body feel? Is there tightness anywhere? Restriction?<\/p>\n

As entrepreneurs and busy people, we are running, running, running. We hardly stop and take a breath to check in.<\/p>\n

We must not only be aware of our emotions but ACCEPT them.<\/p>\n

Another thing I\u2019m sick and tired of hearing about?<\/p>\n

All this talk that you can control your emotions.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t. <\/strong><\/p>\n

The neuroscientist Antonio Damasio wrote that we are about as capable of controlling our emotions as we are of stopping a sneeze.<\/p>\n

All we can do is shine a light on them and pay attention to them.<\/p>\n

Allow them, listen to them, and consciously tap into them as we make easy and difficult decisions in our day to day lives.<\/p>\n

Do what feels good.<\/p>\n

Do what makes you feel light.<\/p>\n

Do what helps you feel free.<\/p>\n

Just don\u2019t apologize for your feelings.<\/p>\n

And don\u2019t let ANYONE convince you that what you are feeling is invalid.<\/p>\n

Your emotions are ALWAYS valid.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even if they may not make sense on the surface, there is some reason or perspective or story that you are telling yourself that makes your feelings TOTALLY valid.<\/p>\n

The story may not be valid, but your feelings ALWAYS are.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t like the way you feel, accept your emotions anyway, and try to understand where they are coming from.<\/p>\n

Is the story flawed?<\/p>\n

Or do you need to change up your reality?<\/p>\n

Either way, honor your internal compass and in the words of Sting, \u201cLet your soul be your pilot.\u201d Your emotions will get you there a whole lot faster than anything you can think of.<\/p>\n

Cheers to thriving in business & love,<\/p>\n

\"Jenev-sig\"<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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