{"id":4134,"date":"2015-10-15T09:02:19","date_gmt":"2015-10-15T09:02:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mybestrelationship.com\/?p=4134"},"modified":"2015-10-15T09:02:19","modified_gmt":"2015-10-15T09:02:19","slug":"fester","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mybestrelationship.com\/fester\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Not To Let Things Fester (and HOW not to)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Within yourself and within your relationship, just don’t do it:<\/p>\n

Don’t let things fester.<\/h4>\n

Something doesn’t feel right within you?<\/p>\n

You have a choice – you can try to ignore it, or you can try to move through it.<\/p>\n

Guess what my vote is for?<\/p>\n

\"Photo<\/a>If you are experiencing an uncomfortable, painful or otherwise undesirable emotion, the only way it is going to go away is if you allow yourself to actually experience it.<\/p>\n

Our emotions are like little messengers, and once you really experience the message, they move on. This may not be always so in the case of emotional disorders such as clinical depression, but for most of us, as Mr. Frost says, the best way out is always through.<\/p>\n

The moral of the story?<\/p>\n

Your emotions aren’t going anywhere, don’t let them fester.<\/p>\n

When something isn’t sitting right with you in your relationship, don’t let it fester.<\/h4>\n

Don’t sit on it.<\/p>\n

Sometimes you might try to\u00a0find the perfect way of bringing something up or saying something and it never happens because there is no perfect way.<\/p>\n

Other times you might not even come close to bringing something up because it just feels easy to ignore.<\/p>\n

Guess what?<\/h4>\n

It’s not going anywhere.<\/p>\n

If something is bothering you, talk about it.<\/p>\n

Talk about it from an open, honest, vulnerable and curious way.<\/p>\n

Dig deep within your own experience and ask yourself “why is this bothering me?”<\/p>\n

Be honest with yourself about what answers come up.<\/p>\n

This is often easier said than done.<\/h4>\n

Far too often we have these conversations from a guarded place, which often winds up back firing.<\/p>\n

Get real honest and vulnerable with yourself.<\/p>\n

Allow yourself to be fully present in your own emotional experience, and once you can do that, show that to your partner.<\/p>\n

This is a risk, but one that so many partners need to take.<\/p>\n

(If you are in an abusive or violent relationship<\/a>, I do not recommend this approach.)<\/em><\/p>\n

How can you be more honest with yourself and your partner?<\/p>\n

Let me know in the comments.<\/p>\n

Cheers to thriving in business & love,<\/p>\n

\"Jenev-sig\"<\/a><\/p>\n

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P.S. Need some help with this? Check out my self-study program Make Love Work: The Entrepreneur’s Guide to Prospering in Love & Prospering in Business<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n

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