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Our brains have this habit of preparing us for the worst.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s how we\u2019ve survived and evolved over the years. If we can anticipate the danger, we\u2019ll be better prepared for it. Then? We survive as a species.<\/p>\n
Anxiety and fear can be on overdrive for some of us but they actually DO serve a purpose when in the right dosage:<\/p>\n
To keep us alive!<\/strong><\/p>\n Lots of times, though, we don\u2019t even question our tendency to anticipate the worst. We just create and live in a MUCH more negative reality around us than we need to.<\/p>\n Take me, for example, as I\u2019m looking for an office space in town. I seriously don\u2019t need more than one day\/week in person office, as I\u2019m busy enough without starting a local therapy practice, but at the same time, I would like to establish a local presence and have a space to see people in person when needed here in the Granite State where we live free or die.<\/p>\n To sublet someone\u2019s office once a week in NYC is easy, but I wasn\u2019t finding that here. So I stopped looking, I didn\u2019t have a lot of time for it, it wasn\u2019t a priority. I didn\u2019t need to shell out a full-time rent for a space that I\u2019d be using once a week.<\/p>\n Fast forward into taking a closer look? You know, into REALITY?<\/strong><\/p>\n There are tons of offices well within my reach, and yes, part-time offices definitely exist.<\/p>\n Now, obviously if it were important enough to me to find an office when I thought about it awhile back, I would have sought more \u201ctruth\u201d about it, but it wasn\u2019t even an option in my head because of some kind of implicit belief I hadn\u2019t uncovered about what it would entail to find a space here.<\/p>\n Everything.<\/p>\n In your relationship, you might be likely to misinterpret your partner\u2019s blank stare as one of disdain.<\/p>\n Just today I had something in my eye and must have rolled them both, and my husband asked why I was rolling my eyes at him. Good thing he asked.<\/p>\n Or in business, if that prospective client doesn\u2019t hire you when you have that initial consult, you might question and doubt yourself, when really, they didn\u2019t hire you for some unrelated reason.<\/p>\n I spoke with a couple years ago and they didn\u2019t hire me. It stung. I remember being so confused why not, because it was so clear how I could help them and I thought I made that explicit. Why didn\u2019t they hire me? I must have blown it or fundamentally not been enough on some level, or so I thought.<\/p>\n Years later? I was made aware that the conversation we had was a game changer for them, in a good way, and changed the trajectory of their marriage. (Sometimes a slight shift in awareness and a willingness to get help goes a long way\u2026)<\/p>\nYou\u2019re probably questioning what this has to do with your relationship, your business, your life or anything else.<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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