{"id":4667,"date":"2016-03-23T20:50:10","date_gmt":"2016-03-24T00:50:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mybestrelationship.com\/?p=4667"},"modified":"2016-03-23T20:50:10","modified_gmt":"2016-03-24T00:50:10","slug":"counterintuitive-key-freedom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mybestrelationship.com\/counterintuitive-key-freedom\/","title":{"rendered":"The Counterintuitive Key To Freedom"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">John Bowlby was a pioneering British psychologist whose work became well known over 50 years ago.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">BEFORE I LOSE YOU, stick with me. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">This has to do with your freedom.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Bowlby became known for his work in \u201cattachment,\u201d which is basically the emotional connection between a child and parent. He found that when a child had a \u201csecure base\u201d of a strong and stable emotional connection in a primary caregiver, she was more free to explore the world. Without that secure base and solid emotional connection, the child\u2019s primary motivation was to seek this base, and she was therefore less free to explore the world.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">His work was not widely accepted at first, but then it became a mainstream idea that kids need emotional safety. Thanks to him, parents no longer face the same kind of restrictions when it comes to visiting their kids if they need to be hospitalized for any reason.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Bowlby also held that these emotional needs stayed with us \u201cfrom the cradle to the grave.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">It wasn\u2019t until groundbreaking research on romantic relationships in the last few decades that this revolutionary idea of Bowlby\u2019s started to be embraced. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">It became clear: To be our best, we need emotional safety in our relationships with others.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">We all do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">It\u2019s how we\u2019re wired as social mammals. Our brains and bodies were NOT set up to be isolated from others.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">Thankfully, because of the pioneering work of those who have taken the once revolutionary ideas from John Bowlby and applied them to our relationships as adults, we now have an understanding of love and how to get it right.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><em>That means that regardless of your history, regardless of your struggles with love in the past, you, too, can get love right with the right tools and guidance.<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">What does this have to do with your freedom?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">It has to do with the time that good friends of ours\u00a0stood up on the altar and the groom jokingly referred to the wedding ring he slipped onto his bride\u2019s hand as \u201cthe world\u2019s tiniest handcuff.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Ironically, that wee handcuff can set you free. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">When you have that safe base, your brain literally is more resilient to fear, and even physical pain doesn\u2019t hurt as much.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">When you have a secure base, someone or a community of people who have your back, you are that much freer to soar. <\/span><\/p>\n<p>Love and freedom create an upward spiral of positive impact and tidal wave size ripples in the world.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>I believe the new information out there about how to get love right is too important to keep on the couches of therapists.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">I\u00a0learned this information while I was still in the throes of new and young love, I was so much more free to commit and say &#8220;YES&#8221; when he asked. I knew I&#8217;d be better off for trusting my heart, despite scary divorce statistics and the idea that a ring was a small\u00a0handcuff.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">I also know that I&#8217;m a better partner and parent\u00a0because I know this information.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">I&#8217;m better at ANY\u00a0work I do, I understand people more, and I&#8217;m happier.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">Whether you are single, madly in love or struggling in your relationship, this information is for you.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><strong>Our relationships are our teachers and catalysts for growth.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">Let&#8217;s\u00a0not only take care of them, but be grateful for the difficulties that they seem to cause too, as they help us stretch into the people we are meant to be.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">Cheers to thriving in business and love,<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/mybestrelationship.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/01\/Jenev-sig.png\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-108\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-108 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/mybestrelationship.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/01\/Jenev-sig.png\" alt=\"Jenev-sig\" width=\"116\" height=\"60\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">P.S. If you would like to revolutionize your love, I invite you to join me in my online program starting soon, just click the image below to learn more:<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/mybestrelationship.com\/revolutionizeyourlove\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-4658\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-4658\" src=\"https:\/\/mybestrelationship.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/03\/Copy-of-Copy-of-Copy-of-Copy-of-Copy-of-Copy-of-TEXT-HERE-1-1-1024x535.png\" alt=\"Copy of Copy of Copy of Copy of Copy of Copy of TEXT HERE-1\" width=\"1024\" height=\"535\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>John Bowlby was a pioneering British psychologist whose work became well known over 50 years ago. BEFORE I LOSE YOU, stick with me. This has to do with your freedom. Bowlby became known for his work in \u201cattachment,\u201d which is basically the emotional connection between a child and parent. 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