John Bowlby was a pioneering British psychologist whose work became well known over 50 years ago.
BEFORE I LOSE YOU, stick with me.
This has to do with your freedom.
Bowlby became known for his work in “attachment,” which is basically the emotional connection between a child and parent. He found that when a child had a “secure base” of a strong and stable emotional connection in a primary caregiver, she was more free to explore the world. Without that secure base and solid emotional connection, the child’s primary motivation was to seek this base, and she was therefore less free to explore the world.
His work was not widely accepted at first, but then it became a mainstream idea that kids need emotional safety. Thanks to him, parents no longer face the same kind of restrictions when it comes to visiting their kids if they need to be hospitalized for any reason.
Bowlby also held that these emotional needs stayed with us “from the cradle to the grave.”
It wasn’t until groundbreaking research on romantic relationships in the last few decades that this revolutionary idea of Bowlby’s started to be embraced.
It became clear: To be our best, we need emotional safety in our relationships with others.
We all do.
It’s how we’re wired as social mammals. Our brains and bodies were NOT set up to be isolated from others.
Thankfully, because of the pioneering work of those who have taken the once revolutionary ideas from John Bowlby and applied them to our relationships as adults, we now have an understanding of love and how to get it right.
That means that regardless of your history, regardless of your struggles with love in the past, you, too, can get love right with the right tools and guidance.
What does this have to do with your freedom?
It has to do with the time that good friends of ours stood up on the altar and the groom jokingly referred to the wedding ring he slipped onto his bride’s hand as “the world’s tiniest handcuff.”
Ironically, that wee handcuff can set you free.
When you have that safe base, your brain literally is more resilient to fear, and even physical pain doesn’t hurt as much.
When you have a secure base, someone or a community of people who have your back, you are that much freer to soar.
Love and freedom create an upward spiral of positive impact and tidal wave size ripples in the world.
I believe the new information out there about how to get love right is too important to keep on the couches of therapists.
I learned this information while I was still in the throes of new and young love, I was so much more free to commit and say “YES” when he asked. I knew I’d be better off for trusting my heart, despite scary divorce statistics and the idea that a ring was a small handcuff.
I also know that I’m a better partner and parent because I know this information.
I’m better at ANY work I do, I understand people more, and I’m happier.
Whether you are single, madly in love or struggling in your relationship, this information is for you.
Our relationships are our teachers and catalysts for growth.
Let’s not only take care of them, but be grateful for the difficulties that they seem to cause too, as they help us stretch into the people we are meant to be.
Cheers to thriving in business and love,
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