10 years ago on a Saturday afternoon in late April, I settled into a window seat of an Irish bar, overlooking 2nd Ave in the East Village, with a Guinness in one hand, and the teal, hardcover book by Dr. Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, in the other. […]
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What To Do When It’s Hard To Forgive
While it’s always a good time to forgive, if you’re willing to, the start of a new year is a particularly nice time to consciously forgive. So many of us go through our lives sometimes accumulating little ouches and resentments here and there without addressing them. What often happens is that people wind up brushing […]
The Game Changer: Curiosity In Your Relationship
One thing you need to embrace more of in your distressed relationship (and dare I say, what we need more than ever in the world at large) is this: Curiosity. When we are in extreme pain, however, the last thing that we are is curious. We’re too busy feeling our intense pain, or more commonly, […]
Feeling Unloved In Marriage
Sadly, more and more people are feeling unloved in marriage. If you’re feeling unloved in marriage, you’re not alone, though you likely feel entirely alone, and the pain is unspeakable. This post discusses the achingly lonely feeling of feeling unloved in marriage, what to do with it, and some alternative explanations of what may really […]
Doubts About Compatibility
Got doubts about compatibility in your relationship? Some doubt in the beginning phase of any relationship is totally normal, but you’ve been together for years and you’re still questioning things. “I think maybe we’re just not compatible.” You’re not alone. You’ve been fed a fantasy version of what love and relationships should look like, Disney […]
How To Talk Your Partner Into Self-Improvement To Better Your Relationship
You’ve had revelations about yourself and your life in the recent past whether it’s months or years and have transformed. You so desperately want to share this journey with your partner. They are simply not on the same train as you, and while you don’t want to say it’s heartbreaking because you still have hope, […]
