I’m having a hard time writing this post, because as of this writing there are thousands of children being separated from their parents at the U.S. border and I feel paralyzed. I’m having a hard time focusing, truly feeling frozen and flooded at the same time. Girls and maybe boys are being raped, parents are […]
Shut Down Partner
The Must Read Book To Improve And Deepen Your Relationship
10 years ago on a Saturday afternoon in late April, I settled into a window seat of an Irish bar, overlooking 2nd Ave in the East Village, with a Guinness in one hand, and the teal, hardcover book by Dr. Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, in the other. […]
What To Do When Feeling Invisible In Marriage
What do you do when you’re feeling invisible in your marriage? “I feel invisible in my marriage,” she said. “Like he doesn’t even see me.” Kate does so much for her family and doesn’t ask for much in return. She runs a busy kennel and an even busier household with 10 and 12 year old […]
What To Do When You Have A Disrespectful Wife
Disrespectful Wife? “She snaps at me for no reason.” “I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around her.” “It’s like I’m always on thin ice, I never know who I’m going to get.” These are the comments I hear on the regular from heterosexual married men who tell me that their wives are […]
Feeling Unloved In Marriage
Sadly, more and more people are feeling unloved in marriage. If you’re feeling unloved in marriage, you’re not alone, though you likely feel entirely alone, and the pain is unspeakable. This post discusses the achingly lonely feeling of feeling unloved in marriage, what to do with it, and some alternative explanations of what may really […]
How To Respond, Not React (Even When You Want To Claw Your Partner’s Eyes Out)
How can I respond, not react? You had a disagreement and just want to resolve it, but your partner is so checked out, again. You approach him (or her) nicely. No response. You feel it starting: your blood starts heating up, not quite boiling, but getting there. You restrain yourself, take a deep breath, you […]
