Has your dream of a wonderful relationship dissolved into depression? Feeling worn out, depleted.
Does the thought of dating fill you with dread?
While you’re secretly terrified of never finding anyone?
Some part of you still longing for the man who looks at you like you’re the most beautiful woman in the world…
Are you haunted by this vision of your man?
The man who has your back.
The man who is proud that you are his partner, his lover.
The man whose word is as reverent as his touch.
The man who is not threatened by your strength, but loves you even more for it.
The man who celebrates every day because he gets to to spend it with you.
The man who opens his arms to you and his heart.
Here’s the truth:
Your fantasy relationship is not only possible, but is inevitable if you know how (even if awful relationships are all you’ve known).
But here’s the thing:
You must trust.
You must believe it’s possible.
You must have faith.
And you must know what love gone right looks like.
It’s not as simple as making a list of all the ideal attributes of your perfect mate and “calling in the one.”
It’s about knowing your patterns and pitfalls in love and how to get them right.
It’s about knowing what a solid relationship LOOKS like.
Discovering how to get love right will be a rough road without any help if all you’ve known is how love goes wrong.
Look around you at the relationships you’ve seen…
Have there been any good ones?
If not, don’t worry, you can change all this, and it has nothing to do with your looks, your weight or your bank balance.
Your dream relationship is not only possible, but is inevitable if you know how (even if awful relationships are all you’ve known).
A strong, solid relationship is built on emotional safety, curiosity, openness, acceptance.
How do you get that?
You start with yourself.
Get real honest, curious, open and accepting with yourself.
Do not fret about what you find; none of us are perfect.
Your dream partner isn’t perfect – that would be awfully boring to both of you.
Know this too:
If all you’ve known has been crap when it comes to relationships, you might not be especially excited by “good relationship material.”
In other words, you must be willing to trade RED HOT CHEMISTRY for discomfort.
Naturally, few people ever get out of their own way with this one, as RED HOT CHEMISTRY is often more appealing, intoxicating, than … discomfort.
When you know what common traps you fall into when it comes to the love game, you’ll know how to avoid them and how to get out of them.
I’m going to share more Thursday 8/11/16 @ 2pm EST on my FREE TRAINING just for you:
The Secret of Effortless Attraction:
How To Manifest A Relationship That Leaves You Giddy. Where You Are Completely Seen, Heard, Understood. Cherished.
The love you’ve been waiting for is well within your reach, you just need to learn how to be ready for it.
Really need help with relationships, my role models abused me and let me down badly so I struggle to create a working relationship
Jenev Caddell says
Thank you for your comment. Good self-awareness too. I would suggest working with someone who could help you with this. You can find a good therapist here: http://iceeft.com or you’d be welcome to join my program as well to learn more about yourself: https://mybestrelationship.com/revolutionizelove Please let me know if you have any questions.
I do feel like giving up on finding someone. I am approaching my mid-20s and never been in a relationship, never even had a date or kissed a man. I haven’t been able to form friendships either. Most of the time, I feel as if I didn’t exist. This whole situation is really pathetic. The life I am living is not normal for a person of my age.
Jenev Caddell says
Thanks for your comment – so sorry to hear you feel that way. I want you to know that you are not alone with this – I know it doesn’t feel “normal” but I know others are out there who feel the same way. I wonder if there are any support groups you can join nearby or find a supportive therapist/counselor to speak with about this close to home. More than anything else, I want you to know that you do exist, you are important, you are a miracle just for being alive (we all are). Hang in there and connect with supportive people who are safe to start opening up to. Thank you for your comment xxx Jenev
There is no point in using therapy group or councillors. They won’t find a man for me. If it was only up to me, I would have been in a relationship many times. Men just don’t see me at all and don’t care.
Jenev Caddell says
That must be hard to feel like no matter what, men don’t care about you, when you’d want to be in a relationship. My idea with the group was to connect with other people so you can feel less alone and start seeing your value reflected back to you from others – it wasn’t about romantic relationships. In terms of individual work with a therapist/coach/counselor, I think the process could assist in you working on your relationship with yourself. We can be our own worst enemies at times on some level – and sometimes we don’t even see it. I would just ask you to consider how you feel about yourself, and if it’s not great for any reason, I stand by my suggestion to speak with someone about it. I know thats REALLY hard to do and an act of courage, but it might change your life.
Good luck and all the best – thank you for your response,