I know your kind.
You put 110% into your work.
You don’t give up.
You do like to do things your way, because it usually works better, and when it doesn’t, it still feels right.
You’re no longer employable – you can’t take the bureaucracy and the games, the schedule, the attitudes and the boring consistency. You’re here for growth and the 9-5 life was stifling at best, soul crushing at worst.
You’ve been creating or serving people or causes since you were a little kid, and you’re not about to stop now, no matter how many of your endeavors have failed to launch or remained brilliant ideas from the shower. Besides, it’s the journey, not the destination.
It’s too exciting, too rewarding, and, let’s face it, addicting to live and work any other way.
You’ve been sung praises for your independence, motivation and drive, and these qualities are some of the reasons why you’re so good at what you do.
When you don’t like something, you shut it down.
You trim the fat where you find it and you figure out how to do stuff better.
Life is too short not to.
You’re pretty awesome!
But when you apply that same strategy of shutting things down in your relationship, you set yourself up for failure.
Avoidance doesn’t work in love. Trimming the fat isn’t always an option if it’s part of who your partner is – and the “fat” is just your perception of something.
Your fierce independence can actually be a weakness when it comes to being the best partner you can be.
If you’ve got any problems with your relationship, you may have a hard time looking squarely in the face of the elephant(s) in the room, the strained connection or the problems seeing and hearing each other.
Because it IS hard.
It’s easier to avoid.
Shutting things down and cutting the crap works with other things.
But if you continue to do that in your relationship, you’re going to continue to grow apart.
Put your relationship front and center for once and deal with it.
Make known your commitment to each other and your desire to reconnect.
Give your relationship the space it deserves by setting aside time for it so that connecting again even has a fighting chance.
Bring up the ugly stuff that you’d rather look away from.
And get some help if you have to.
I’d be happy to speak with you about the possibility of working together if you feel like you’re just going in circles on your own.
Whether you reach out to me or not, making your relationship a priority and reaping the rewards of a strong one is one of the best things that you can do for yourself, your family, your business and the world.
Cheers to thriving in business & love,
Elsa Alexandra says
Beautifully put Jenev! I love your description of “no longer employable” 😉 Elsa x
Jenev Caddell says
Thanks as always, Elsa!! xx