Today I’m going to be discussing your internal compass, or what Danielle LaPorte refers to as “the GPS of your soul,” namely: your emotions.
“Emotion” has been considered inferior in many ways to the almighty “cognition,” our newly evolved and highly sophisticated neocortex, where we can compute complex math problems and think things through (sometimes).
The thing about emotions is that they are more sophisticated than we have given them credit for.
In fact, emotion is sort of like our internal compass, a guidance system that we can always count on to help us navigate the intricacies of our lives in a simple way.
My advice to you is – actually, I’m begging you – to please pay attention to your emotions.
The root of the word means “to move,” and emotions are fluid in nature.
When we don’t acknowledge them or pay attention to them, they can become stuck.
Unacknowledged anger turns inward and depression ensues, for example.
Or, because we don’t listen, we become stuck.
I just got off the phone with someone who has been questioning herself and listens to her husband’s voice over her own. He tells her she’s uptight so she questions herself and asks, “am I too uptight?” and as a result, becomes even more restricted and uptight in the process.
While I’m all about thinking of two people in a relationship as a system, and I believe we are all connected, it’s important that you never let your partner drown out the signals that you need to hear from yourself.
What you should do instead is STOP.
Ask yourself: How do I really feel?
Your emotions are your friends. They are incredibly sophisticated and we have them to thank for helping us survive this far.
If you’re struggling to tap into your feelings, try to just feel yourself in your body. Ask yourself, how does your body feel? Is there tightness anywhere? Restriction?
As entrepreneurs and busy people, we are running, running, running. We hardly stop and take a breath to check in.
We must not only be aware of our emotions but ACCEPT them.
Another thing I’m sick and tired of hearing about?
All this talk that you can control your emotions.
The neuroscientist Antonio Damasio wrote that we are about as capable of controlling our emotions as we are of stopping a sneeze.
All we can do is shine a light on them and pay attention to them.
Allow them, listen to them, and consciously tap into them as we make easy and difficult decisions in our day to day lives.
Do what feels good.
Do what makes you feel light.
Do what helps you feel free.
Just don’t apologize for your feelings.
And don’t let ANYONE convince you that what you are feeling is invalid.
Your emotions are ALWAYS valid.
Even if they may not make sense on the surface, there is some reason or perspective or story that you are telling yourself that makes your feelings TOTALLY valid.
The story may not be valid, but your feelings ALWAYS are.
If you don’t like the way you feel, accept your emotions anyway, and try to understand where they are coming from.
Is the story flawed?
Or do you need to change up your reality?
Either way, honor your internal compass and in the words of Sting, “Let your soul be your pilot.” Your emotions will get you there a whole lot faster than anything you can think of.
Cheers to thriving in business & love,