You’ve had revelations about yourself and your life in the recent past whether it’s months or years and have transformed. You so desperately want to share this journey with your partner. They are simply not on the same train as you, and while you don’t want to say it’s heartbreaking because you still have hope, […]
My Best 7 Books For Your Best Relationship
I’m often asked about recommended books, so I’m going to share a very short list of my favorites when it comes to relationships. I actually have a much longer list of about 30 books that are not restricted to relationships alone, and maybe one day I’ll briefly review them all, but for now, here are […]
Feeling Insane In Your Relationship
When you’re in severe relationship distress, it might feel like your world is ending. It can feel like you’re going insane in your relationship. Like Shirley (her name is made up + details are a combination of several clients to protect privacy). She was ready to leave her marriage when she called me last year. […]
Keeping Secrets In Your Relationship
Caution: Loaded topic. Are you keeping secrets in your relationship? Before going further about this, let me tell you that most secrets in an intimate relationship if you are long-term committed partners are toxic. Poisonous. Secrets are things you are either keeping from your partner on purpose or explicitly lying to them about. Before going […]
Just Apologize: 2 Of The Most Powerful Words You Can Say
Just apologize. Own what you did and say “I’m sorry.” Of course, for an apology to be effective, you have to mean it, and your actions have to demonstrate that as well, but these two words are extremely important. It can be hard to own when you mess up if your relationship is already struggling. […]
About Emotionally Focused Therapy
The Roadmap to Connecting with your Partner Again If you are a couple in distress and not sure if you will ever figure out how to connect again, fear not. There is a way out of despair and back to each other. That golden roadmap to connecting with your partner again is called – in […]