It serves an evolutionary purpose to help us survive by maintaining a certain level of cooperation among humans, but if it goes unchecked, it can be a relationship poison. What am I talking about? Shame. You know the feeling. Let’s do a little exercise in case you don’t. (because there’s nothing quite like getting in […]
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What level of lover are you?
In this video, Anthony Robbins discusses with Oprah 4 different levels of ways to love. We can all be lovers at each level at different times, but the question he asks is: Where is your center of gravity? The four levels of love are as follows: 1.) Baby Love A.K.A. “I’ll love you if you […]
Where many couples therapists go wrong
Many couples therapists, in my opinion, have got it wrong. Personal disclosure: I started doing family and couples therapy during my training years in graduate school. I tried my best with some tools in hand and books read, but I really didn’t know what I was doing. Most of us start here and some of […]
It’s not about the dishes…
Do you ever find yourself getting in the same silly fights with your partner over and over again? Whether it’s taking the trash out, doing the laundry in a particular way or washing the dishes, is it always something? Does your blood boil with rage when your partner screws up again? Do you feel […]
How To Get Off The Toxic Relationship Merry-Go-Round
I wish it were as simple as a blog post to get off the toxic merry-go-round, but hopefully this entry will help shed some light on this all too common problem that so many people face: jumping from one bad relationship to the next. Here’s the deal: As humans, we’re all creatures of habit. We […]
3 Steps to Convince Your Partner to Join You in Couples Therapy
People – mostly women – get in touch with me all the time because they desperately want to start couples therapy or coaching but their partners just won’t go. Today I’ll be discussing 3 steps to get your partner sold on couples therapy or coaching. Step 1: Be Careful with the When and How If you’re […]