I’m often asked about recommended books, so I’m going to share a very short list of my favorites when it comes to relationships. I actually have a much longer list of about 30 books that are not restricted to relationships alone, and maybe one day I’ll briefly review them all, but for now, here are […]
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Feeling Insane In Your Relationship
When you’re in severe relationship distress, it might feel like your world is ending. It can feel like you’re going insane in your relationship. Like Shirley (her name is made up + details are a combination of several clients to protect privacy). She was ready to leave her marriage when she called me last year. […]
Keeping Secrets In Your Relationship
Caution: Loaded topic. Are you keeping secrets in your relationship? Before going further about this, let me tell you that most secrets in an intimate relationship if you are long-term committed partners are toxic. Poisonous. Secrets are things you are either keeping from your partner on purpose or explicitly lying to them about. Before going […]
Just Apologize: 2 Of The Most Powerful Words You Can Say
Just apologize. Own what you did and say “I’m sorry.” Of course, for an apology to be effective, you have to mean it, and your actions have to demonstrate that as well, but these two words are extremely important. It can be hard to own when you mess up if your relationship is already struggling. […]
How Can I Tell If I’m Outgrowing My Relationship? Here’s What To Do…
I frequently field questions from confused people who fearfully wonder, “Am I outgrowing my relationship?” When you’re a person who is interested in personal growth and development and your partner’s not, you may be scared that you are outgrowing your relationship. Alternatively, perhaps you’ve recently become someone interested in personal growth and development as a […]
What NOT To Do With Your Trouble In Your Relationship
Got a personal issue or trouble in your relationship? An easy way to ruin your relationship is to keep all of your trouble to yourself. Let’s talk about 2 kinds of trouble and tackle each separately: 1.) Your personal troubles – unrelated to the relationship If you are reluctant to ever “burden” others with your trouble […]