One thing you need to embrace more of in your distressed relationship (and dare I say, what we need more than ever in the world at large) is this: Curiosity. When we are in extreme pain, however, the last thing that we are is curious. We’re too busy feeling our intense pain, or more commonly, […]
Change/Growth
Feeling Unloved In Marriage
Sadly, more and more people are feeling unloved in marriage. If you’re feeling unloved in marriage, you’re not alone, though you likely feel entirely alone, and the pain is unspeakable. This post discusses the achingly lonely feeling of feeling unloved in marriage, what to do with it, and some alternative explanations of what may really […]
On Building Trust And Why Assumptions Are Deadly
Building Trust It’s no secret that one of the keys to a solid relationship with anyone, romantic or otherwise, is trust. “It takes 20 years to build a reputation and 5 minutes to ruin it.” – Warren Buffet Trust is built over time, in small moments. In the business world, someone might check you or […]
Profit First In Your Relationship
Late last year I read Mike Michalowicz’s book: Profit First to help me manage finances better in my business (highly recommended if you run your own business). At the beginning of the year, I started following part of his system: Take a certain percentage of your income twice monthly and send it off to a separate […]
How To Respond, Not React (Even When You Want To Claw Your Partner’s Eyes Out)
How can I respond, not react? You had a disagreement and just want to resolve it, but your partner is so checked out, again. You approach him (or her) nicely. No response. You feel it starting: your blood starts heating up, not quite boiling, but getting there. You restrain yourself, take a deep breath, you […]
This Fact Will Help You Love More
Every year on the anniversary of 9/11/01, if you’re like many people, you think about where you were, what you were doing, who you were with… Emotional memories stay with us forever. We learn with emotion, because emotion tells us something is significant, so it gets etched even deeper into our brains and memories. Even […]