I’m often asked about recommended books, so I’m going to share a very short list of my favorites when it comes to relationships. I actually have a much longer list of about 30 books that are not restricted to relationships alone, and maybe one day I’ll briefly review them all, but for now, here are […]
Trust
Keeping Secrets In Your Relationship
Caution: Loaded topic. Are you keeping secrets in your relationship? Before going further about this, let me tell you that most secrets in an intimate relationship if you are long-term committed partners are toxic. Poisonous. Secrets are things you are either keeping from your partner on purpose or explicitly lying to them about. Before going […]
Just Apologize: 2 Of The Most Powerful Words You Can Say
Just apologize. Own what you did and say “I’m sorry.” Of course, for an apology to be effective, you have to mean it, and your actions have to demonstrate that as well, but these two words are extremely important. It can be hard to own when you mess up if your relationship is already struggling. […]
What NOT To Do With Your Trouble In Your Relationship
Got a personal issue or trouble in your relationship? An easy way to ruin your relationship is to keep all of your trouble to yourself. Let’s talk about 2 kinds of trouble and tackle each separately: 1.) Your personal troubles – unrelated to the relationship If you are reluctant to ever “burden” others with your trouble […]
A 10-Minute Conversation To Revive Your Relationship
Need a relationship revival? Today I’m going to share a quick and easy conversation to have together that will do just that: Revive Your Relationship This conversation to have with each other is not something I learned about in graduate school or in my post-doctoral training to become a couples therapist. It’s actually something […]
Time heals all wounds?
One of my biggest pet peeves is the idea that “time heals all wounds,” especially as it relates to injuries in relationships. These four words have caused so many couples so much damage, it’s about time we debunked this myth of time being the cure all for every problem. FORGIVENESS heals wounds, not […]